Recognize the Helpers
They're all around us.
Living in a modern, global society means that we can directly see and hear the suffering of many, many people, and animals, and the earth itself. This can be painful and shocking, and cause us to feel hopeless, angry, or shut down. It can even cause us to feel hatred for others, or believe that humans are inherently uncaring and stupid. But, though humans do cause so much destruction, we also benefit, restore, and improve each others’ lives and the world. That’s because our real nature is wise and compassionate — the same as a buddha or a saint— and if you pay attention you can begin to see this for yourself, and see how you’re part of this lineage. I’m sharing the excerpt below, which I recounted on Life as It Is last year—to encourage you to recognize this truth, remember how valuable it is, and use it skillfully.
Every Buddhist tradition that I’ve studied talks about lineage. Every teacher will talk about their teacher and their teacher’s teacher and their teacher’s teacher’s teacher, going all the way back to the Buddha. We talk about lineage to honor the people that came before us and to have gratitude for them. But lineage also connects us to all these other beings and reminds us that we’re not alone. There are a lot of others who have gone before us, they will in the future, and they are right now.
That was very inspiring to me when I first started studying Buddhism. Then I realized that we all have a lineage, even if we’re not Buddhist. Our lineage is all the people that have supported us, all the animals that have supported us, and the earth that has supported us. You can even go back to before you were born. There were very likely people who helped your mother while she was pregnant: medical providers, family, and friends. People probably opened doors for her. This lineage continued when we were kids. People taught us how to walk and to read. And even if our families weren’t so great, there were teachers and strangers and friends.
When you start to review that lineage, you can realize that it continues today. A lot of beings are supporting us, and we’re supporting a lot of beings. Our lineage can remind us that we aren’t going through this alone. We can ask for help, and people will come out and help us.
This happened to me soon after my mom died. My mom and I had a terrible relationship, and when she died, I thought I would be relieved, or at least I wouldn’t be so affected. But her death was very, very affecting. For about six months to a year afterward, I was really, really struggling. My mind was very unsteady, and I really didn’t know what to do at times.
A Tibetan teacher once told me, “When you’re in trouble, you can just call on the buddhas because that’s their job. They’ll come. They’ll help you.” It seemed so silly, and I didn’t really believe anything mystical or magical or that sort of thing. But, one day, I was feeling so hopeless, and I said, “Alright, buddhas, if you’re here, I really need some help!”
I was on my way to an appointment with a therapist. When I walked out of the subway, I encountered a street vendor who said to me, “Hey, are you OK? Can I give you a cup of tea?” And he did. Then someone else smiled at me, and then I got a text from my oldest friend saying, “I’m thinking of you. Are you OK?” And then, of course, I got to my therapist’s office. And with all these connections, I felt so much less alone, and very loved, and I just felt so powerfully that these _are_ the buddhas — human beings are buddhas and they _are_ all around us.
I still continue to believe that that’s what’s meant by the buddhas, at least in today’s world. That’s how they’re manifesting. They’re from each other, from us. They’re all here right now. And we can ask for that help anytime and really tap into it for ourselves and each other.
Excerpted from an interview I gave on Life As It Is, Tricycle’s monthly podcast hosted by James Shaheen and Sharon Salzberg. Listen to the full conversation here.
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Kim✨
It isn't always easy to remember just how supported we are, or to be willing to receive what is offered to us. Thank you for the reminder that our lineage, our buddhas, our friends, our angels in other realms, they're all here to lift us always.